Black & Abroad: Armenia

Mervin is a Youth and Community Development Volunteer with Peace Corps. As he approaches the halfway point of his service, I wanted to reach out to him to discuss how his service has been so far, and what his country is like (Here’s a hint: Kim Kardashian).

Originally from English speaking, South American country of Guyana, Mervin first heard about Peace Corps while completing graduate school at NYU. He had a professor who talked about his own service during the early 1980s. “His experience fueled me to research everything relating to Peace Corps and its impact to the developing world,” Mervin says. Despite this enthusiasm, he still ignored his call to join the Peace Corps (“the Olympics of Volunteerism”) for years. After applying twice, and turning down both invitations to serve, he decided to apply one last time because he felt he “would be able to serve individuals that are in need in a different capacity.” He filled out the application and offered to serve anywhere (a decision he looks back on as “a bit ballsy”), got his invitation and departed to join the 2018-2020 cohort. “Third time’s the charm, as the saying goes.”


When people think about Peace Corps, they often envision heat. Usually Africa and sometimes Latin America or Asia, but Mervin ended up in Armenia. I know personally, I wouldn’t have wanted to serve in a place where I would still have to deal with snow. However, plenty of volunteers brave the cold. Almost a thousand of the 7,367 current Peace Corps volunteers serving in the world are in Eastern European countries. Mervin is one of them. He serves in the small (roughly “the size of Delaware—everyone’s favorite state to drive straight through”) European country of Armenia. It is a country that’s been plagued by border conflicts and a 1988 earthquake that left many cities in rubble. Interestingly, Mervin’s partner organization, World Vision Armenia, came to the country in response to the earthquake. World Vision Armenia “is a Christian, child-focused and community-based organization, dedicated to working with children, families and communities to overcome poverty and injustice.” Mervin does a variety of projects with them that focus on teaching English and youth development. He starts his day with the adorably named ‘English Tea with Merv’ where he lets his coworkers practice English through conversation over tea. Afterwords, he spends the rest of the work day planning programs for his youth groups, summer camps, entrepreneurship workshops and figuring out how to best meet community needs. During the summer months, he’s required to travel to outlying communities to teach English, and even though this results in “very long days,” Mervin is completely committed to the cause.

Armenia is a highly homogeneous country where 95% of the population is ethnically Armenian, and 95% identifying as Christian. As such, Volunteers of color in Armenia and LGBTQ+ volunteers will stand out. Mervin told me about times he has used uncomfortable experiences as teaching moments. “I’ve had to explain that doing the slant eye to replicate an Asian person isn’t nice” he said, “as a black man here many are curious and are amazed when I inform them I actually live in New York and not Africa.” He also deals with “stares, laughter, finger pointing, requests for selfies, and questions that usually relate to which part of Africa are you or your family’s from” all of which he cannot stand. Armenians “pride themselves on being very hospitable people, but many aren’t aware of some of the actions/views can be perceived negatively,” he says. Although, “most of this is usually explained in the form of curiosity or lack of exposure to new or other ethnicities,” it can still be very difficult to navigate at times. However, Mervin is able to manage the situation by “being mindful that assholes exist everywhere and not everyone will like you” (advice he says also helps him deal with racial microaggression in the states). He focuses too on the importance of self-care and self-love saying “just make sure you love yourself and everything else will only impact you for a moment.”

And for the food? Well, Mervin’s picky and plant-based so he usually cooks for himself. I was personally offended when Mervin told me about how he’s been given pizza made with ketchup and mayonnaise: “prior to knowing this I took a huge bite and aborted swallowing right after.” On the other hand though, “making pretty good moonshine and wine is normal in the villages” so it hasn’t been all bad. He says the moonshine is surprisingly smooth considering the alcohol by volume can be up to 70% and, perhaps most surprisingly, it is not laced with chemicals. The real hidden gem though, he says, is the great tasting homemade wine that gets poured into two liter plastic bottles and sold for $4.


Mervin is happy overall to be where he is and tries keep an open mind to new experiences. “Armenia is different. It’s not good or bad. Just different. This helps from being judgmental or disrespectful. It is a chapter that I am present and thankful for. Have never done anything like this in the past so it has been a remarkable time within my life.” He has about year left of Peace Corps, and he’ll spend much of it sharing coffee and cake with community members (a common Armenian pastime), sipping moonshine during khorovats (Armenian for barbeques) and avoiding the mayo pizza.

If you’re thinking about Peace Corps, Mervin highly recommends considering it with a few caveats, you must be “willing or yearning to create change within an environment that differs from what” you’re used to in your daily life. If so, he also mentions other intangible benefits “such as learning a new language, culture, living in hardship, and discovering new strength within yourself. Who doesn’t enjoy a good struggle to be reminded of the beauty they’ve overlooked?”

FYI – Kim Kardashian isn’t the only one with a name like that – almost every Armenian last name ends in “-yan” (often also spelled “-ian”).

How to ACE your Peace Corps Interview

The day I got my email about interviewing for Peace Corps, I was so nervous and freaked out. I wouldn’t say it went perfectly (see tip #3) but I got through it and landed somewhere great.

If you’re invited to do an interview with Peace Corps, here are a few tips that could be helpful:

#1 Use the STAR Method

So this is useful in almost any job interview, but STAR is an acronym that can be really helpful when answering questions in a job interview. Basically when you answer a question in an interview that relies on your previous experience, you should be telling a story.

So, the ‘S’ stands for situation, here’s where you tell the background. The ‘T’ stands for ‘task’ where you describe the task you had to complete  The ‘A’ means ‘action’, where you discuss the action you took and finally the ‘R’ is for ‘results’ where you share what happened as a result of the action you took.

So, when an interviewer asks, (just as an example!) “tell me about a time when you overcame a challenge in your workplace?” You should really work to explain the backstory, the importance of overcoming the challenge, how you were able to overcome it and what happened next.

I’ve personally found this method really useful because it helps you answer questions in a clear, logical and thorough way.

#2 Highlight your experiences

So, maybe I’m the only person who needed to hear this, but I remember before my interview feeling really nervous because I hadn’t worked abroad before, or in development work. I realized though that applying to Peace Corps can be a little hard because there aren’t a lot of programs that are like it, and that’s okay. Your previous experience working with diverse communities, or with monitoring and evaluation, public speaking and program development in any context is relevant to Peace Corps! Play to your strengths in the interview and work on building your narrative.

#3 Test your equipment thoroughly before the interview

So before my Peace Corps interview I had some computer issues, so I ended up needing to go borrow a laptop for the interview. I just asked if it had a webcam and I didn’t even bother trying to check it to see how it looked. Long story short, it was probably the worst webcam on the face of the earth. The quality was so bad that I literally just looked like a shadow and there was no amount of lighting that could make it look better. Me and the interviewer wasted a few minutes trying to figure it out and it just didn’t work.

The interview went fine. But, it was really embarrassing and actually just added unnecessary stress to the process.

Even if you don’t go through that, you may need to download the software for the interview and it’s best to make sure you can just focus on being your best self.

Which brings me to my final point:

#4 Stay calm!

This interview can feel really high stakes, especially if Peace Corps is something you’ve wanted to do for a long time, but the most important is to be calm. Feel free to take a moment when you’re asking questions, and make sure you present your most authentic self in the interview. Remember that the interviewer wants to learn as much about you as you need to learn about the position to make sure it is a good fit. Just do your best to prepare beforehand and be honest and thoughtful in the interview.

Take a breathe and relax, you got this.

PS.

Dress up! I know it’s a little cheesy to be fully dressed up for an interview over webcams, but I do actually think it helps.

Black & Abroad: Japan

I met Mariah a few years ago in college, during an Alternative Spring Break trip to New York City, and since then we’ve been close. I’ve always been so intrigued by Mariah’s experiences abroad so I wanted to take some time to ask her more about her experiences working abroad as an English teacher in Asia.

Picture of a black woman with black to brown ombre hair smiling and holding a bowl of noodles.

Mariah has been interested in Japanese culture since high school. What pulled her in? Anime. She was up too late one night, and stumbled upon an anime that she couldn’t stop watching – Code Geass, a popular series that takes place in a dystopian alternative timeline. Mariah went on to study Japanese, and spend a semester there studying abroad. Mariah felt at home in Japan instantly. She described how she felt when she arrived in Japan the first time saying “once my feet touched the ground, I knew this is where I belong.” Those five months studying abroad were life-changing for her, the experience left her with a love of travel, and a yearning to go back. So after a period of self-discovery and other travels (including almost two years of teaching English in South Korea, and a trip to visit me in the Dominican Republic), she finally got back to the country that started it all. She now works as an assistant language teacher in Miyazaki City, of the Kyushu prefecture, which is the southern island of Japan. She got really lucky with her placement though, as the city “is known for its friendly people, beautiful beaches, warm weather, and surfing.” She hasn’t gone surfing yet, but it’s on her to-do list.

I really wanted to talk about what it has been like for her as a black woman living in a country where there are not many people who look like her. The thing people are most curious about? Her hair. People will touch her hair often without asking, and ask how she washes it. People also tend to think her hair isn’t “real” and will ask, she’s also had boys trying to pull her hair thinking it’s a wig. Mariah gets both positive and negative comments on her skin, with most of the commentary coming from the students she works with at school. “One thing [they] find interesting” she told me, “are my hands. They think it’s weird that my palm is a different color than my skin.”

An interesting thing that Mariah noticed is that most of the people she meets don’t seem particularly interested in black culture. When she tells people she likes R&B or Rap, most people either don’t know it or don’t like. As for the rest, “you will find people who like hip hop” she says, “but the scene is dying and being replaced with pop/kpop.”

Mariah is doing well though, besides the occasional awkwardness and the teachable moments. So how does she cope? Well, her time in Japan has been better than her time in South Korea in that she lives in a bigger city with more people around. So, while she doesn’t know any other black people in her city, she does have a support network in the area. “They won’t get everything” she says, “but it’s nice to have them around.” She also takes advantage of Facebook groups where women can share stories about their time in Japan and ask questions, which has been really helpful for her. Mostly though, she’s become more resilient over time as a result of her traveling, she knows that she’s not going through these experiences alone and that she has acquired the skills to not only survive but also be happy and make the most of her experiences abroad.

Aoshima Beach

Want to plan a trip to Japan? Mariah suggests thinking beyond just Tokyo. “Japan has a lot of awesome cities and people. Don’t limit yourself with the big/popular cities especially if you want to experience real Japanese culture.” Japanese food can be really bomb, and you’ll have to try her favorites: sushi and mochi. One Japanese eat that she’s not getting anywhere near though is Torisashi, a raw chicken sashimi, which is popular in the Kyushu prefecture. It’s most commonly made with the hearts, liver, breast, thigh or gizzards of a chicken. It’s sometimes seared or boiled for up to ten seconds, but the inside is definitely meant to be raw. I wouldn’t mind skipping out on that either, but maybe for someone more adventurous than me. Speaking of adventurous, Mariah also drives in Japan! It only took her one time to get used to driving on the other side of the road. Watch out though, “Japanese driving can be crazy or slow,” she says “you get a lot of wtf moments.”


Her last bit of advice? “Pop out of your bubble and your way of thinking. Experience something new, live with no excuses and travel with no regrets. You don’t have to travel far; there are wonders wherever you are.”

FYI: Mariah is currently working in Japan with the JET program, and highly recommends it for people serious about teaching English abroad. She says the benefits, pay and lifestyle are good compared to other English language teaching jobs.

How to survive when your friend ETs

Same girl.

Peace Corps is a really difficult experience, and one that not many people relate to. This really pushes you have to build a strong support network within the volunteer community of people who can actually understand you. HNC friends are great as well, but sometimes you just need to complain and relate to people who share the background and frustrations as you.

That’s why I think it can be so hard when you have a friend leave Peace Corps early. Whatever causes them to leave, it feels really kind of heavy and upsetting to lose part of your support network. The first friend I made during training also left during training and I took it so hard. Now, another friend of mine recently left (I’m okay, there were only a few tears!) and I’m realizing that no one really talked about how to deal when your friends leave.

So here are some tips that helped me:

  • Do something to say goodbye — This is really crucial. Even if you do something very small, do SOMETHING to formally say goodbye to your friend, if possible. Visit their site, plan to see them in the capital, call their Peace Corps cell phone and cry about it. Whatever you need to do! Being able to have some closure will help you feel better in the long-term. One of my friends left really abruptly and we didn’t get a great opportunity to say goodbye and it honestly made it so hard for me.
  • See it as an opportunity — Sometimes someone’s leaving can give us the opportunity to reflect on our own service. How is it going? How are we feeling? How are we connecting to others? It can be useful to take some time to face inwards and check in with ourselves after a friend leaves and assess our own situation.
  • You gotta give them space — Okay, so after your friend goes back home, it can be really tempting to want to check in with them all the time (ask them about hot showers and air conditioning, ugh the things we took for granted) but it’s important to remember that as they go back they’re also dealing with a really difficult readjustment themselves. Depending on what caused them to leave they may immediately start feeling disappointment or failure, as they start to look for a job they might feel restless or overwhelmed by the process, and even as they settle in there may be feelings of longing as they see the rest of their cohort and friend groups continue with service. So give them some space to get back their groove back and realize that it’s probably a little rough for them.

Just remember that it will suck at first, but you’ll be okay, and your friend will be okay. Plus, on the bright side, soon they’ll have a real job again and will hopefully send you a few bucks through cash app to buy whatever cheap beer you have in country of service.

Cheers!

Christmas in the Campo

Last Christmas was, without a doubt, the hardest day of my Peace Corps service.

Christmas is usually one of my favorite holidays, my family usually spends time together decorating the house, shopping for gifts and watching Christmas movies. Sadly, this was so different from how we celebrated Christmas with my host family – the host was not decorate at all, we didn’t listen to Christmas music, we barely discussed the holiday at all.

Furthermore, it’s surprisingly hard to get into the holiday spirit when it’s 90 degrees still (what can I say? I’m from Michigan, we love a white Christmas).

Christmas Eve was underwhelming, and Christmas Day I felt bored and homesick – I wasted most of the day alone, laying in bed reading and feeling bad for myself. So, yeah, not a good day.

This year, I was determined not to let that happen again this year. And honestly, thankfully, I can say it didn’t.

So a note on Dominican culture: the main Christmas celebration occurs on Christmas Eve – it’s called Noche Buena. With my neighbors, we all got dressed and ate entirely too much. Dinner was turkey, potato salad, rice and lasagna. Then we all grabbed plastic chairs and sat outside and talked over a bottle of red wine. Everyone who saw me that night greeted me with “Y Dominique, cenaste ya?”. The focus of the night is spending time with your loved ones and making sure everyone eats. Family members come home from the capital and other countries (mostly the US and Spain) to compartir and celebrate.

On Christmas Day, I went to go visit my favorite family (I’m basically a cousin at this point) to wish them Merry Christmas. They had a bunch of family members come from the capital and we all ate, again too much, and danced and sang karaoke. What’s Christmas without a microphone and speaker?

So, here’s to more Christmas karaoke, more Dominican potato salad (hold the raisins) and more red wine in plastic chairs with neighbors.

From the province of San Juan in the DR, I wish you a feliz Navidad, un prospero año y felicidad!

2018 in Books

As a PCV and just a person who loves books, I read A TON when I have time to do so. I set my Goodreads reading goal at 20 books this year, and ended up around twelve (I never have as much free time as I expected!). Anyway, I just wanted to talk about some of the top five books I read this year.

#1 Although I love and prefer non-fiction, I read a novel and a some short stories this year that really made fall in love fiction again. Jhumpi Lahiri’s Intrepter of Maladies is a really stunning work of fiction. It is a collection of short stories that focuses largely on the Indian experience, mostly in the U.S. but in India as well. As the title implies, it can be a little heavy and frankly heartbreaking at times, but there is little melodrama and the characters have agency over their lives.

#2 Angie Thomas’ The Hate U Give, similarly is not a book I would have usually just picked up. However, after glowing reviews from friends, a copy was available and I wanted to give it a shot. It’s classified as young adult literature, but the way Thomas navigates themes of race, class and police brutality is really compelling. It exists as a really powerful coming-of-age story that is honest about the lives of black girls.

#3 Another piece of nonfiction that really moved me this year was Chimamanda Ngozie’s Americanah. Part love story, part coming of age, part race theory this book follows the lives of two teen lovers who move through the world strikingly different ways.

#4 John Soluri’s Banana Cultures was probably the most interesting nonfiction book I’ve read in a while. It explores the growth and changes in the banana industry in Honduras in the 20th century. It focuses on the ways that American banana companies changed the landscape of northern Honduras by buying up land cheaply and installing Hondurans and migrant workers in chemically dangerous, underpaid and temporary work. It talks about the workers movement for labor rights, and about the marketing scheme thought up by companies to sell bananas in the US. It was just really interesting to think about especially in the context of my service in a banana, plantain producing country.

#5 Finally, Jeffrey Sach’s The End Of Poverty makes the case for how society can end extreme poverty in our lifetime. Although the book has been criticised for over-simplifying problems, I think the recommendations are solid and the book is a powerful prescription for extreme poverty based on meeting the needs of individuals and empowering them.

Obviously my book list is huge and never ending so hopefully 2019 brings more time to read!

What were your favorite books this year? And which ones are looking forward to reading in 2019?

On golden birthdays and golden moments.

So, last week on the 27th, I celebrated my 27th at my Peace Corps One-year IST. It gave me a great opportunity to reflect on my life in general and my service specifically. This year, for my birthday, we did a DIY brunch, I spent a night at the beach and celebrated with my volunteer friends. This birthday was in huge contrast with my birthday last year, one that was forgotten by my host family and spent mostly bored. 

I think the amount of growth I’ve experienced this year has been amazing, and I’m so amazed and grateful. 

The Spanish word for birthday is cumpleaños, which is a compound word combining the word ‘cumplir’ which is to complete or achieve and ‘años’ which means years. I think that word is beautiful because it reminds that we have achieved another year, we’ve done the work, gotten better, grown for a year and while the earth revolved around the sun to come back to the same position, we changed. 

I have 11 months of Peace Corps left, and I’m excited to experience, and document, the changes coming.

The Journey Begins

Thank you for joining me.

My name is Dominique Thurmond, and I’m currently a Peace Corps volunteer in the Dominican Republic. I am hoping to use this blog to document my experiences, knowledge learned, and ideas.

I’m hoping to talk about programs, books, art, music, highs and lows of service and more, and connect with others. Feel free to ask any questions you have!